REVIEW by Rick Green.
We live in a strident age. My way or the highway. They're wrong and we're right. My country right or wrong, and it's never wrong. Even magazine covers demand we do as specific things: Three Cookie Recipes You MUST Try! Five Horrible Mistakes Parents Must Avoid!! 28 Sex Secrets Every Woman NEEDS TO KNOW!!!
Discussions are now skirmishes. Debates are screaming matches. Pundits don’t disagree, they dismiss, disdain, mock, humiliate and demolish. “Our side is 100% right and everyone else is completely wrong.” We’ll sneer at their ideas, then question their motives, patriotism, sanity, and the legitimacy of their birth certificate.
Do this! Don't do that! Believe this slogan! Buy this processed cheese or the Terrorists win.
This militant haranguing seems to pervade every aspect of life. Everything feels polarized. Every issue is approached with our fight or flight mechanisms at full Def-Con 4 Alert.
Hell, there’s a fast-food place near our home called Extreme Pita! EXTREME? That’s right, it’s not just some meat and vegetables rolled in a flatbread. Oh, heaven’s no! It’s an extreme flatbread, filled with acute vegetables and unrelenting meat!!! Take that, Buster!!!
No wonder I eat so fast.
There isn’t an aspect of life where the clock isn’t ticking, where it has to happen now! OR ELSE!!!
Then there’s Ari Tuckman.
Ari is a vast storehouse of knowledge about ADHD. Yet he presents the facts and figures, wonderful tools and strategies as modest suggestions, “Hey, y’know, these might apply to you and your situation. Or not. But you may find some value in them. And if you don't then that's okay. No problem. You know best. But here they are, I'll just leave them here on the table and you can look at them in your own sweet time. Or not…”
Now adults with ADHD are very stubborn. They are! Every damn one of them!!! And if you disagree with me, buddy, then you're completely wrong, and you're a traitor to this great nation. [Can you see what I did there, I got strident. Clever, eh?]
Ari Tuckman might have said, “Some adults with ADHD can appear to be obstinate. Doubtless it's not intentional or malicious. Perhaps it's a natural outcome of a lifetime of being corrected by others. Whatever the reason, the impact is they miss the benefits of good advice from those who often have their best intentions at heart. Which is a shame.”
So, yes, I recommend Ari Tuckman’s book More Attention, Less Deficit for all the usual reasons. It’s a comprehensive guide to ADHD and ADD in adults with the focus on minimizing or reversing the negatives and emphasizing the potential positives. But what makes Ari’s book, and Ari himself in person, so effective is the disarmingly casual way he presents information. He’s offering some ideas to consider and try on. “See if this will work for you.” Ari is engaging and reassuringly soothing. Grounded. Calm.
Yes, you may laugh or cry as you recognize your past struggles, but Ari always, leaves me looking forward, thinking “Yeah, that might be a good idea. I’d like to try that.”
As opposed to my usual, “Oh my God! Why didn't I know this sooner! Damn! This could save my life! I have got to do this. Now. Right now! Honey, I know it is our anniversary today but I have no choice! I need to rush out and buy some plastic tubs for sorting things right now! I have to! Where’s the car keys?!!”
I can almost hear Ari saying, “Yes, Rick, you could buy tubs now. Or, y’know you might allow yourself time for your anniversary, and buy the tubs tomorrow.”