This short, easy-to-read book brims with advice drawn from Gina’s years of experience leading a support group for ADHD adults.
“In most cases, you know that your partner is not a bad person or a mean person, who’s doing these things on purpose.
It’s like having a third entity in the relationship. You can’t blame it on “You”, and you can’t blame it on “Me”. There’s this whole other entity that’s responsible.
It’s not a question of blame; it’s a question of recognition.”
She explains the pitfalls of getting ‘the wrong therapist’, or seeking help from professionals who do not understand ADHD.
A passionate advocate, Gina is committed to spreading the truth about ADHD and giving people tools that actually work. And she doesn’t pull any punches.
“Whether it’s children or adults with ADHD, it results in a loss of human resources.
There’s too much of a tendency to dismiss these problems because people think, “Oh, he’s always been like that, and he always will be. Why can’t you just accept it?”
It’s not a question of whether I want to accept it; it’s a question of whether the person is getting the information they need, to have the best life that they can have.”
By cutting through the myths and fear mongering, Gina has helped thousands of couples; in person, and through her writing. She knows what works.
Gina understands this is a journey—for both partners.
“Only after someone has said, “No, you’re not crazy. Yes, we believe you. Yes, this is happening. Yes, other people have experienced it too,” then you can start working on solutions.
And then, you can start working on forgiving your partner.”
In this interview, she offers inspiration and hope for people with ADD and for their loved ones.
“After getting treatment, they don’t lose their personality; they become more themselves, and less defined by symptoms. And they have all kinds of new opportunities. That, to me, is what it’s all about: Not being defined by your limitations.”
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